"I started riding someone who is new and we talked about STIs recently.
"We both admitted that we have never been tested on anything.
"I'm pretty sure I have nothing, because I've never had sex without a condom, except with an ex I trusted, and he thinks he's clear because he never had unprotected sex.
"I'm not too busy to be tested, but I also have no trouble getting things done if I do not have to, and I feel the same.
"We used condoms, but I am considering the pill – should I get an STD test, even though there is hardly any chance that I have anything and should I insist that it be checked?"
Exactly, in theory, if you have never had unprotected sex and you have both never shown symptoms of a sexually transmitted infection, you would think that everything would be great.
You clearly have no STI and you're not going to catch anything, so it's all G, right?
But not exactly, no.
Although there is "little chance" that you have something, there is still a chance.
STIs are not exclusively transmitted through seminal fluid or vaginal fluid, skin-to-skin contact is an important player here.
Many sexually transmitted infections such as HPV, chlamydia and gonorrhea can also all be asymptomatic, which means that they can go unnoticed for a long time without knowing we have them.
How well can you trust someone you've just started driving when it comes to things like this? And how well can you trust your own memory?
I am not saying that someone is lying here or is actively trying to be misleading. The fact that you two have the STI convo like the adult adults you are is a good sign, and tbh, not enough people who are engaged in informal sex do it.
But there is a chance that this kid recently forgotten enough that he forgot to use a condom. Or perhaps you have misunderstood the number of people with unprotected sex.
And even if you did not, as we know very well from four whole paragraphs, ago, condoms can not protect against all forms of STDs.
Like most forms of contraception, they are not 100 percent effective. This means that even if you use one during sex, you are not protected against STDs such as herpes, syphilis and HPV that are transmitted in different ways to other common infections such as chlamydia and gonorrhea.
Similarly, just because you used a condom does not necessarily mean that you used it correctly – or that it did not break when you had sex.
Accidents happen all the time and unfortunately for us, are pretty sure about something just does not have the same effect as, for example, getting medical statement that you are all well.
If you are considering switching from condoms to the pill, then it is wise to get both checked.
Most people (including the past – I know, hands up) would not even have considered this problem – once you use some kind of contraception, everything should be great, right?
… Only it is not, because STIs are something and become pregnant, is not the only unfortunate thing that can happen to you if you have unprotected sex.
You are clearly not the most people, because you have taken the time to write a literary mortal fear about this, so it is clearly something that you keep an eye on.
And if that is the case, you have to check yourself.
It gives you peace of mind for now, and it will assure you that as soon as the next boy to come along comes along – and if something unreasonably STI-wise happens – you are completely clean.
Plus, if you are going to force this guy to get an STI screening, he will probably expect the same from you. Only for the balance, do you know that?
Checking yourself for the first time can be a bit intimidating or uncomfortable if you do not know what to expect, but it will not be half as strange as knowing that you have been given chlamydia sometime in the future, so you know , swings and roundabouts.
If you feel a bit dubious, go to your doctor and talk to them first and they will be able to point you in the right direction.
The GUIDE Clinic of St James Hospital has a handy overview of what to expect when you enter your check, including the questions you are asked, the details of the physical examination and which samples will be taken.
At the end of the day, if you are sexually active, you should receive regular STI checks. If something goes wrong in the future, you can not rely on & # 39; pretty sure & # 39; and & # 39; count & # 39 ;.
It is better to be safe than sorry, IMO.
You can find a list of free STD clinics across the country here.
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But do not worry because at Haar we have been there, we are still there and we can even give you some good advice. At the end of the day, #ShiftHas everyone done it.
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