Written by Priyanjana R Das | New Delhi
Updated: August 26, 2018 6:00:18
Raksha Bandhan is the one day in the year in which brothers and sisters put aside all their quarrels and celebrate their relationship. No matter how much you try to dissent and run away, for a relationship that brings almost as much grief as happiness, Raksha Bandhan offers much-needed bliss – a day full of good food, gifts and kind words.
The new era of Raksha Bandhan has cut off the dramatic – and unmistakably patriarchal elements – of the occasion quite a bit.
"For my brother and I, Raksha Bandhan is just a time to catch up and we're both so buried in our work that we barely have time to hang out together." So, at Raksha Bandhan, we meet and squat. a lame joke or two, "says Shivi Tandon, 27, a resident of Gurgaon. The lives of socially and financially independent women in urban India is no longer the same as that of their predecessors, decades ago. And the need to protect a male member of your family is minimal at best. "My brother can not protect me, let's be honest, I can not, but we're too busy, but if we need each other and need protection, he'll take care of me as I want," says Shivi. .
The idea of protection that was central to this festival has translated into something that now identifies itself more with childlike camaraderie and party. For Neehal, a law student from Guwahati, his relationship and Rakhi celebrations with his sister have evolved into a celebration of camaraderie.
"My sister bought me a rakhi when we were kids, so she had to save up, I could not take the itchiness of the band, and I threw it away in minutes, and after that day she never tied a rakhi to me. if my cousins and a few girls who have taken me from my neighborhood, bind me a rakhi, she just hangs around and takes away all the presents that I receive, if she likes it, I can not protest. a lot about my life, what if she tells me? "
Even if Raksha Bandhan had traditionally only attached importance to a relationship in which brothers and sisters were essentially involved, it is extended to taking everyone under his care – the single child, brothers and sisters who are girls, pets, trees, grandchildren. . In a story that warms up a bit, Pratisha Saharia, 28, admits: "I am an isolated child, I always felt excluded when my mother celebrated rakhi with her brothers, so I started my own ritual – I tied a rakhi to my Even though I'm in the US now, I make sure I send them a rakhi every year, something to remind them of me. & # 39;
While Pratisha chose her own brother or sister, Raksha Bandhan is a day of remembrance for many. For most millennials and the adult urban working class, it is a day when they come together and try to create family memories again.
Aditi, 27, a working professional in Gurgaon, takes the time to celebrate Rakhi because it reminds her of all the goofy times she had with her brothers at home. "We always laughed together, funny or not, that was our business: last year I blogged and played on YouTube, then I tied rakhi to my brothers, and just like that, we've made so many memories and laughed for hours", recalls Aditi himself.
Each family has its own way of celebrating Raksha Bandhan, some of which may not fit in the norm. Slowly and gradually, however, the patriarchal undertones of the festival seem to fall away and they leave it as a celebration of togetherness and brotherly love. And that's the beauty of this festival, that in this era of nuclear families and people who live away from home – there's a festival that reminds people of family and their siblings, no matter how irritating these siblings are to the rest 364 days of the year.
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