Everyone, both students, parents, grandparents and teachers, expect the start of the school year with some alarm. The tension is based on the unknown. That is why parents, in preparation for a new school year, have to know things with the child who are worried about the child. It is important that the child knows and feels that his parents are supported by their parents.
Likewise, before the start of the new school year, it is very important to discuss issues relating to the autonomy and personal safety of the child. After long and hot summer holidays, it may be more difficult to get used to the fact that there will be a new regime, a different environment, possibly other friends, responsibilities, new, unfamiliar situations at the start of the school, experts from the Center Dardedze say.
Parents play an important role in preparing for the daily routine of the school. They must make the child feel that they can be safe, interesting and at school. It is important that the child knows – if there are problems, they will be overcome together with their parents if necessary.
Recommendations for parents whose children go to school – will be useful for parents of all children – from a first-class to a high school student:
Discuss the new day plan. How long does it take to go to school and school, which circles, extensive day groups, interest education and other things are in the student's weekly plan.
Meet the class teacher and, if possible, with other teachers. It is good if you meet the teacher, you are the whole family together. This is especially important for first-year students, and it is also very important for students who will follow their school at another school. If the school has already been trained by older brothers or sisters, they can be good assistants for encouraging and presenting a small pupil.
Together with the students, make sure that you have all the things you need for the school – to make it less surprising later on.
The psychologist of the Center "Dardedze" Daina Dežums remembers: to make the school environment more emotionally safe and more connected with fun at school, it is important to help children to be sensitive to each other, to express themselves, to have a different opinion. accept and exist for yourself without bothering others. For children of all ages, the best way to develop communication skills is the parents' example: seeing how parents work together successfully, talk to each other, discuss different topics.
Be careful – be safe
When the new school year starts, the issue of self-reliance and personal safety of children becomes so important. Going to school and home, going to extracurricular activities, staying home alone. It would be important for parents to prepare and what basic skills a child should have.
The law on the protection of the rights of the child in Latvia states that parents or guardians are obliged not to leave a child under the age of seven without the supervision of an adult. This means that the child can start his daily routine independently from the age of seventh.
The legal age is indicative and many parents often acknowledge that when the first year starts, the child is not yet ready to stay alone or go to school or community alone. He is still used to having always been at home with parents, grandparents or other loyal people. That is why the child has to make time so that he gets used to going somewhere alone. It must be taken into account that children are diverse and must respect their needs.
Recommendations for creating a child for self-sufficiency, which gives the child a sense of security and strengthens the ability of the child to cope with unusual situations:
If you are at home alone at home, it is important that the child feels safe at home and has already overcome fears in certain home-based places, such as the dark corridor, with parents' support.
The child must be slowly urged to work for a longer period of time. Initially the child offers ideas about what to do and the child can play more and more one.
Motivate the child, with particular emphasis and joy on his or her independence, to do something without the help and presence of adults.
If it is the intention that the child comes home from school, it is better to make daylight hours at the moment. At first the child comes home with his parents. Then together, but take the lead ("bringing home an adult"). And only when adults see that the child has learned everything that is needed and also feels sufficiently convincing, can he try to make the path alone. You can talk that mom or dad will take the child to the school gate and then to the nearest crossing of the school. And slowly increase the distance the child performs as he learns to come home.
If the child has to travel on public transport, you can first call and / or call a parent before you leave. Continuous phone calls may prevent the child from being careful about what is happening around them, but if the child has reached the destination, call again. If the insecurity of the child is great, it is advisable to have fun together or to invite the child to take only part of the road where he feels safer. You also need to take action if you are worried about yourself – then you have to think about what are the greatest fears and make sure again that the child has mastered the skills that are needed.
- Make sure that the child knows the door or the alarm code, can unlock the door and remembers to lock it.
- It is useful if the child's phone numbers are at home in a familiar and clearly visible place.
Knowledge that can be useful for your child
When one child is out in the street, every parent believes that everything will be okay, but it has to be taken into account that there are different situations that need to be told to the child. The main goal is not to beat him, but to teach him to respond accordingly.
Tell the child what to do if it happens in an alarming situation, such as getting lost. If the child feels confused and does not know what to do, he can call his parents, grandparents (of course, if the child has a telephone). The child can also ask adults to call their parents. This means that the baby must know the names of mothers and fathers in their heads. They must also be included in a diary, on a piece of paper in the wallet or on the inside of the cover.
If there is no adult around who can help you, call Help 112. This phone number must absolutely learn from the child's head. Tell the child what the operator is asking for and what needs to be answered in such a situation. It is important to remember that the child can not stop the conversation first, because it may happen that the operator wants to clarify and clarify something.
Considering the child's ability to navigate around, it would be good if parents would teach a child to describe the environment around him – where street names can be seen, what information can be found on fixed signs. You also have to make sure that the child knows which city and area lives and knows his address.
Parents should discuss with their child the daily routine that the child should measure as best as possible with his friends or classmates. Remind the child that it is as much as possible to travel alone, especially in remote areas. When the child goes somewhere, he or she must always be accused by parents or other caretakers. If the child suddenly feels unsafe for one reason or another, he must call one of his parents and continue the conversation with the rest of the way. For this reason, it is important to keep in mind – as much as possible, even during work, parents must raise the child's appeal, as this can also be a safety issue. It is desirable for the child to have several telephone numbers up close, because there is a greater chance that one of them will always be able to call.
An important point is contact with strangers. The child must be explained that after a person's appearance it is not possible to judge whether a person is good or bad. The child must be told that he does not have to help a stranger, for example to find a stuffed kitten.
Without attention, screening devices that nowadays often replace a babysitter should not be left out. Talk to your child about what you can and can not do on the Internet, such as sending your own or family photo's to strangers. It might be better to lock your internet access with a password while one of your parents comes home.
Parents and teachers may not always be close to children and protect them. That is why it is important that children recognize the unsafe situations themselves and know how to deal with them.